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58 | Denver, Colorado

In a world where work and love always compete, I choose love every time.

He sees the big picture and can easily take the broad, long view of almost any topic. And he also has an adventurous side.

He enjoys new ideas and novel experiences which he wants to share with an enthusiastic partner.

He particularly enjoys people who like to play with abstract theories and ideas, provide insights, search for symbolic meanings in life and relationships and have a broad interest in the world.

A few excerpts from his personality test:

  • I am very empathetic
  • When reading, I enjoy it when the writer takes a sidetrack to say something beautiful or meaningful
  • I am tough-minded

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in his own words...

I've always believed that service to others should be the most important measure of a person's life. Perhaps this is a remnant of of now shed Christian upbringing. I still believe that service is great and I have spent a lot of my life trying to make the world a better place. But sometimes being other oriented has caused me to put other's needs ahead of my own. I grew up in a time when it was not cool to be gay. My mom would speak to me about growing up and finding the right girl. And even before I knew what it meant to be gay, I felt that marriage would never be for me. . But times have changed. And while marriage is not the ultimate source of happiness for everyone, I do see a relationship leading to marriage as a goal. I want a relationship that is based on trust, honesty, and open communication. I like guys who are kind, funny, sexy and smart in that order. I want someone who can give and receive love freely, is in touch with their emotions and can express them, and someone who is addiction free. I have always seemed to connect with guys who are about 10 years younger than I am--perhaps because I have always looked younger than my age and my energy connects well with them. As the founder of the non-profit that I now run, The Convergence Project, I obviously still care a lot about service to others. But as someone who identifies as a questioning agnostic or spiritual humanist, I like to focus on the rewards that come from the present moment. Life is short. And in addition to doing good for others, I think there is nothing wrong with wanting a few more beaches and a few more sunsets. What that all means is that I seek a forever relationship, hopefully leading to marriage, with a man that I can grow with, love with all my heart and soul, and spend incredible, transformative time together in quite moments and big, adventuresome ones as well. If this sounds like you--who you are right now without changing, I hope you'll find me.

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About him:

  • Living situation:
    • Live alone
  • Religious affiliation:
    • Spiritual but not religious
  • Relationship history:
    • Single (never been married)
  • Income:
    • $50,001 to $100,000
  • Eye color:
    • Blue
  • Hair color:
    • Dark brown
  • Ethnic background:
    • White/Caucasian

What he's looking for:

  • Age Range:
    • 35 - 49
  • relationship history:
    • Any
  • smokes:
    • Not at all
  • Ethnic background:
    • Any
  • Religious affiliation:
    • Any
  • education:
    • Some college
    • Bachelors degree
    • Graduate or professional degree
    • PhD / Post Doctoral